What Do We Do When our Co-Facilitator Gets Sidetracked? By Martha Lasley

my responses to some common situations that arise in co-facilitation.

What do we do when our co-facilitator:

Becomes animated about his own ideas when the participant runs out of ideas? Notice and acknowledge his excitement and ask where the participant is in the process.

Loses the energy of the room by working with a participant who starts the process energized,Guest Posting but by the end of the session looks deflated? Check in with the participant and the room, articulate my observations, and go from there.

Takes the client back to the place he didn’t want to go? Check in, share my observations, connect empathically with where he’s going and redirect to stay with the client’s agenda.

Deflects feedback by explaining his reasoning for his choices? Articulate what I’m noticing and ask how she could like to receive feedback in a way that connects.

Uses his authority in a way that detracts from individual autonomy? Articulate what I see, empathize with the unexpressed needs (either for myself, him, or others), and make a request.

Invites powerful physical movement, but the participant continuously returns to a collapsed posture? I assume that my co-facilitator and I already have an agreement that we can jump in and co-facilitate, so I articulate what I see and make empathic guesses about what’s going on.

Rushes through the process? Articulate what I’m noticing and how people are impacted in the room. If the participants are getting the learning, then rushing hasn’t interfered. If I notice that participants look confused, I check in with them.

Does not notice that four people in the room are either asleep or drowsy? I would a